Good Vibes

Nancy Forrester, the Executive Director of the National Emotional Freedom Training Institute – explains a little bit about EFT’s benefits and actually guides us through a sequence, so you can experience it too.

I also talked to Sharilee Swaity, Author of Second Marriage: An Insider’s Guide to Hope, Healing & Love. Sharilee was kind enough to provide us with this week’s blog post, please be sure to check it out below and enjoy.

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My husband and I live in the bush. When we bought the place, the seller mentioned something about the place having a “good vibe.” Later, my husband laughed at her woo-woo statement but it worked on me. Our home is modest but the location — with forty-foot trees and no traffic – has an amazing atmosphere.

Restaurants spend a lot of money branding their establishments so that they can develop the particular atmosphere for their patrons and department stores play muzak, a type of music that is designed to get you in the mood to shop.

Business owners are not the only ones who need to worry about the atmosphere. I worked as a teacher for ten years and was determined that students would feel safe in my class.

One of my teaching practicum supervisors said something that I never forgot. She told me, “you set the climate in your classroom.” She went on to say that the teacher was the biggest factor in whatever happened during the teaching day. Not the students who don’t want to learn. Not the administrators who don’t understand us. The teacher themselves.

Years ago, when my husband and I first got married (the second time for both of us) I spent a lot of energy telling my him what he was doing wrong. He wasn’t disciplining the kids enough. He wasn’t spending enough time with me.

Conversely, he was kind enough to let me know what I was doing wrong, too. I wasn’t cleaning enough. I was spending too much time online.

We bickered constantly, our arguments often escalating into full-blown yelling matches and ending in one of us sleeping on the couch. Needless to say, the atmosphere in our home was unpleasant. In fact, one night my husband told me that he dreaded coming home after work, anticipating the disagreements that we were bound to have.

Neither one of us knew how to stop the pattern. We were reacting out of baggage from the past and it was making us both into people we did not want to be. It finally took a very patient marriage counselor to help us unravel our tightly bound “stuff” and learn to have positive communication with one another. Since then, the atmosphere at our house has changed greatly.

We all set the climate in our environments. If we find ourselves creating an atmosphere where people don’t want to be, that is unwelcoming and uncomfortable, perhaps we need to change course. Seek help in whatever way to so that we can once again welcome others into our circle and our presence. Remember, we can’t control whether we have snow, wind or even a hurricane outside but we have a huge role in controlling the emotional climate inside our homes, workplaces, and relationships.

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Stephanie Staples, CSP* is the author of When Enlightening Strikes – Creating a Mindset for Uncommon Success, an internationally acclaimed motivational speaker, and the recipient of the 2014 Manitoba Woman Entrepreneur Award for Contributions to Community. Stephanie empowers audiences & clients across North America to bring their ‘A’ game to work and to life. Stephanie has a special interest in working with and empowering nurses and healthcare providers. She happily calls Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada home. You can get loads of complimentary resources to help with issues such as work/life balance, wellness, stress management and happiness in general, as well as find out more information about her coaching and speaking services at http://www.YourLifeUnlimited.ca.

* Certified Speaking Professional (CSP), conferred by the National Speakers Association is the speaking profession’s international measure of professional platform proficiency. Less than 10 percent of speakers have earned this credential and are recognized as some of the best in their fields. Stephanie was one of only five professional speakers in Canada (and the only woman) to attain this designation in 2013.

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